Why many queer people avoid checking their finances, and the structural reasons behind the queer wealth gap.

Addressing internalized oppression in psychotherapy with gay men by treating disgust as a therapeutic entry point.

Reflections on a conditional Pride Month and what gay men have to give up to embrace ordinary bodies, including our own.

Edited transcript of my conversation with therapist and author Damon Jacobs on Tub Talks.

Edited transcript of the virtual launch of The Mental Health Guide for Cis and Trans Queer Guys, in conversation with Dr. Marco Posadas.

On The Mental Health Guide for Cis and Trans Queer Guys and reclaiming what dominant culture taught us to reject.

Does porn mirror your world or take you somewhere else? What that tension means for queer men's desire and self-image.

A sex therapist on what gets in the way of bottoming: trust, trauma, control and pain, and practical ways to make it easier.

What the research says about ghosting and app use, and my emotional hygiene guide for dating and hook-up apps.

An interview with Dr. Robin Milhausen on what sex therapy covers, how assessment works, and how therapists look after themselves.

Part 3 of 3. Processing shame in therapy, with three case vignettes and the questions I would ask each client.

Part 2 of 3. The ways we defend against shame: attacking ourselves, attacking others, withdrawing, and avoiding it altogether.

Part 1 of 3. How shame develops, how it differs from guilt, and where it comes from for queer and trans guys who are into guys.