The Hidden Queer Wealth Gap
Why many queer people avoid checking their finances, and the structural reasons behind the queer wealth gap.
“I Don’t Need Therapy”
On emotional malnutrition and the culture of endurance, and what the phrase “I don't need therapy” often protects.
How Our Hidden Beliefs Shape the Way We Love
Introducing the Commitment–Sacrifice Matrix: the hidden relationship philosophies that shape how much we give, stay or walk away.
How Capitalism Turns Inequality into Self-Blame
Hardship is not only material, it is also interpreted. How capitalism teaches people to read inequality as personal failure.
Reading Between the Diagnoses: A Social Worker’s Guide to Psychiatry’s Past and Present
A social worker's guide to psychiatry's past and present, and what that history means for diagnosis in clinical practice today.
Disgust, Desire, and the Revolting Self
Addressing internalized oppression in psychotherapy with gay men by treating disgust as a therapeutic entry point.
What Gay Men Must Give Up to Truly Embrace Everyday Bodies
Reflections on a conditional Pride Month and what gay men have to give up to embrace ordinary bodies, including our own.
Classroom Storytelling As Anti-Homophobia Education
More Than One Thing: a talk to middle school students on being queer and Muslim, and why storytelling works as anti-homophobia education.
Tub Talks with Damon Jacobs — Featuring Rahim Thawer
Edited transcript of my conversation with therapist and author Damon Jacobs on Tub Talks.
Talkback with Author Rahim Thawer and Dr. Marco Posadas
Edited transcript of the virtual launch of The Mental Health Guide for Cis and Trans Queer Guys, in conversation with Dr. Marco Posadas.
Making Space for Our Bodies and Belonging
On The Mental Health Guide for Cis and Trans Queer Guys and reclaiming what dominant culture taught us to reject.
Bringing Structure to the Therapeutic Unknown
The moment after a client leaves and you are not sure what just happened. Why I wrote a set of practical clinical guides.
Working Effectively with People Living with, and affected by, HIV
A long read for practitioners on working effectively with people living with, and affected by, HIV. Written with Jordan Arseneault.
A Tribute to Muhsin Hendricks: A Life of Courage, Compassion, and Friendship
Remembering Imam Muhsin Hendricks, one of the world's first openly gay imams: a life of courage, compassion and friendship.
Should (Gay) Porn Reflect Reality or Remain Fantasy, Aspirational?
Does porn mirror your world or take you somewhere else? What that tension means for queer men's desire and self-image.
Employees Are Rejecting DEI Theatre and Demanding True Equity
Every organizational decision is political. Why employees are rejecting performative DEI and what they are asking for instead.
What’s your organization’s DEI endgame?
A potluck is nice, but it's not a measure of equity. Twelve questions for embedding equity into how an organization actually runs.
My partner wants me to bottom, and I’m not sure I can. Let’s talk.
A sex therapist on what gets in the way of bottoming: trust, trauma, control and pain, and practical ways to make it easier.
Applying the Four Statuses of Identity Formation Theory to Queer Muslims
Applying Marcia's four identity statuses to queer Muslims, with vignettes and reflection questions for each.
Am I An Empath? Revisiting Boundaries in Our Personal and Professional Lives
Revisiting boundaries in personal and professional life: empathy, porous and rigid boundaries, and a seven-step exercise.