Grieving Non-Death Losses
Breakups, coming out, addiction recovery and living family: applying the stages of grief flexibly to losses that often go unrecognized.
Interview: What is sex therapy?
An interview with Dr. Robin Milhausen on what sex therapy covers, how assessment works, and how therapists look after themselves.
A Case for Developing Emotional Hygiene Practices with Dating and Hook-up Apps
What the research says about ghosting and app use, and my emotional hygiene guide for dating and hook-up apps.
Object Relations Theory and Therapy for the Disillusioned Nationalist
Using object relations theory to understand urgency, anger and disillusionment with nation and politics in therapy.
The holiday greeting your company won’t ever send
A satirical end-of-year letter from a CEO who finally says what most companies won't.
I support queer and trans youth, but their parents make me anxious!
Why social workers who affirm queer and trans youth can hesitate with their parents, and six operating assumptions for closing the gap.
On being a politicized practitioner
Should politics come into the therapy room? How a political lens shapes clinical listening, assessment and intervention, with case examples.
Cultural Safety & Countertransference: Working in Communities You Belong To
When you work in a community you belong to, sameness shapes the transference. Five vignettes and supervision questions for therapists.
Supporting family members when queer & trans Muslims come out
Seven questions family members often ask when a queer or trans Muslim loved one comes out, with my responses.
The Matrix of Envy in Our Social and Sexual Lives
Envy shows up in our social and sexual lives as often as anxiety. What it looks like, how we defend against it, and how to work with it.
Sexuality and the Imprint of Shame: What Queer Guys (and Their Therapists) Need to Know — Part 3/3
Part 3 of 3. Processing shame in therapy, with three case vignettes and the questions I would ask each client.
Sexuality and the Imprint of Shame: What Queer Guys (and Their Therapists) Need to Know — Part 2/3
Part 2 of 3. The ways we defend against shame: attacking ourselves, attacking others, withdrawing, and avoiding it altogether.
Sexuality and the Imprint of Shame: What Queer Guys (and Their Therapists) Need to Know — Part 1/3
Part 1 of 3. How shame develops, how it differs from guilt, and where it comes from for queer and trans guys who are into guys.
How to be culturally competent when supporting LGBTQ+ Muslims
What counsellors and therapists need to understand about being a minority within a minority, and five ways to attune to LGBTQ+ Muslim clients.